[Review] You Deserve Each Other by Sarah Hogle

My engagement to Nicholas Rose is a game of chicken.


A friend on Twitter, Mith, recommended this book by saying it wasn’t being talked about. That it was a lovers-enemies-lovers book and WHY WASN’T IT BEING TALKED ABOUT MORE? After having read it myself, I wholeheartedly agree.


In what is basically, in my opinion, a War of the Roses Persuasion novel about two people who have maybe fallen out of love with each other, but don’t want to be the one to call the wedding off at the risk of all those non-refundables, you’ll read about Naomi, Nicholas, and a cast with incredible friends & future in-laws, all of whom are just as batshit as the main characters.


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Published: 7 April 2020


Genre(s): Romance/Contemporary/Adult

For fans of The Hating Game, a debut lovers-to-enemies-to-lovers romantic comedy about two unhappily engaged people each trying to force the other to end the relationship–and falling back in love in the process.

Naomi Westfield has an Instagram-perfect life, including the perfect fiancé: Nicholas Rose holds doors open for her, remembers her restaurant orders, and comes from the kind of upstanding society family every bride dreams of being a part of. They never fight, complain, or disagree. They’re preparing for their lavish wedding that’s three months away. And they are miserably and utterly sick of each other.

Tired of contorting herself to fit the ridiculous standards demanded by Nicholas’s family, Naomi wants out of the relationship. But there’s a catch: Whoever calls off the engagement will have to foot the enormous bill for the wedding. When Naomi finds out that Nicholas, too, has been feigning contentment, the two of them go head-to-head in a battle of wills to see who can annoy the other into surrendering through pranks, sabotage, and all-out emotional warfare.

But now that they have nothing to lose, they’re finally being themselves. They’re having so much fun getting on each other’s nerves that it starts to feel like something else entirely. As Naomi discovers hidden feelings for Nicholas buried under three years of simmering resentment, she wonders if he feels the same way. Suddenly, the countdown to the wedding that may or may not come to pass feels more like a race to mutual destruction–and Naomi doesn’t want to be left alone at the finish line.





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CW: scene involving fat shaming & “advice” that is actually disordered eating



what i enjoyed


  • Naomi’s passion for being true to herself and her friends.
  • The aesthetic: whether it was Naomi’s embrace of traditional autumn things like pumpkins & beanies or the cabin that she and Nicholas take up residence in, there was a lot to fall in love with in You Deserve Each Other.
  • Some of the sniping and pranks were actually good fun. Their silliness had me giggling.
  • Naomi’s inner voice had me cackling because she did not hold back when she was narrating her thoughts about the sabotage she was planning or how she felt about her future mother-in-law or how her feelings for Nicholas were fluctuating.
  • Even side characters who never made an appearance had me rolling in laughter, like Nicholas’s father’s first wife Magnolia. Her presence is very much still felt in the family and she is ICONIC.


what i didn't enjoy - Copy


While I understood that a major factor of the book were the pranks and the sabotage that Naomi and Nicholas were enacting upon each other, there were some moments that I felt were unnecessarily cruel and/or thoughtless veering into cruel. For example, on Nicholas’s side, when he backed over a Charlie Brown-esque tree that Naomi had grown attached too, something he did repeatedly as she watched.

On Naomi’s side, when she knew that Nicholas was bothered by her phone ringing with some sort of notification repeatedly, and she didn’t answer it. Her inner thoughts were about how their relationship was at a stage where maybe they didn’t owe each other answers, but it felt like, at that stage, things were slowly starting to get better and she was acting badly and sabotaging it in a totally different way than the previously hilarious antics early on in the book.



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This is a book that begs to be reread because of the humor that leaps off the page. It’s got some twingy moments of sadness and regret, but mostly brought a smile to my face. I highly recommend preordering it, shouting about it, and making sure to share it with your friends so it’ll maybe get a Hallmark movie or something because I can definitely see Naomi and Nicholas across our screens. ❤



Favorite Quotes


This movie is two hours and five minutes long. We have spent one hour and fifty‑five minutes not kissing. I don’t want to sound desperate, but I didn’t contour a third of my body with this much highlighter to not get any of it on his shirt.


My aesthetic is aggressively, unapologetically basic.


I know in my leaf‑ogling, beanie‑loving, pumpkin‑gorging soul that I’d be a basic bitch even if I had neutral undertones. It’s in my DNA.


My engagement to Nicholas Rose is a game of chicken.


These leggings and I have been through a lot together. Breakups. Bad dates. That time Tyra Banks yelled at Tiffany on America’s Next Top Model.


She has fifteen parrots living in an aviary that’s the size of my bedroom and they’re all named after murderers on Law & Order.


I’m in his office, where he doesn’t like me being because he needs privacy for Calls With Mother. The two of them should run a motel together.


I smell food cooking, and the promise of a free meal is the only reason I don’t immediately impale myself on the coat rack.
This is how I’ll die: slightly unwilling but ultimately lazy.
It’s easier if I decide I don’t want him around, because then at least he can’t disappoint me.
“Stop stopping me from destroying you.”





I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. Quotes included are from an advanced reader copy and may not reflect the finalized copy.

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